lol I see you wondering what the hell is he talking about? (well, you probably think that most of the time.)
When negative, hurtful and harmful experiences happen to people, there are those that want to *sweep it under the rug*. Meaning they just want to forget about what happened and act like it never occurred.
This is dangerous for them and those involved because that doe not mean that a solution or learning experience was ever reached from the episode. And as the saying goes, "if you do not learn from the past, then history is doomed to repeat itself."
I noticed this on the call last night with a girl that has been victimized by a boy calling himself a dom. It is unfortunate that she wants to just drop it and get past it with all the grief and distraught feelings that are obviously weighing her down from the mistakes that she made and her being violated.
The same thing happened last year when red and I were talking to diva about what was going on with her and the past episodes. The inability to deal with making mistakes, jealousy and everything was prevalent with all the instances she kept saying "let's just move past this." The so called moving past things or forgetting about them doesn't address, solve or teach you about what happened.
Personally if I bring up what you did or said previously. It is for a learning or clarification experience. Because if i am saying something about it, then apparently something is still a foot from the original occurrence.
As they say though, "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink."
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