I have read and listened to the way relations are today. And all I can do is look wide eyed and shake my head.
Females want to have all the love and everything like they are in a marriage but want it to be not a relationship but a condition when they are in the mood.
Males that have no idea what being man is about. Thinking that pussy rules everything. Standard issue to stupidity.
This whole unnecessary confusion because females can't be women and males can't be men. So much pretending and jockeying for position that it is all a quagmire of bullshit.
Yet, people wonder I have positioned myself where I don't take the nonsense and I am picky about it.
*shrug*
Let the apathy reign
Tuesday, December 09, 2014
Sunday, December 07, 2014
Trustworthiness and Relationships
After listening to another dynamic discussion courtesy of Sir Mythos. I once again looked at the aspect of relationships and their applications to me.
One of the points Sir Mythos brought up was about each individual in a relationship or seeking one needing to be trustworthy and not looking for trust. It made so much sense. Because everyone has trust issues due to life experiences. But if you make it so or show that you are not trustworthy the relationship is dead regardless.
I applied this to those that I tell all things to and have become close to. My ride or die Ru Ru and I are the Road Warriors. Trust her with all things without a half a second thought. Munchkin and I can get our monkey slap and laugh on. The adventures solidified the love and trust that we have with each other. Shockingly I have come to deep trust with Lil Red. It is a shock because at this point in my life I am like the ivy league when it comes to those I choose to be bothered or involved with. And of course there is Auntie my only family left since my wife's death. She knows everything within reason. No need to give the christian lady a heart attack no matter how understanding she is. lol
Hell, I don't have trust or any relationships with the parental units or the ex best friend anymore. I don't ask for much but if you can't respect and ride with me. Then you are nothing to me.
My relationships evolved just like me. With emphasis on a two way relationship instead of a just me and you receive type of relationship. I had enough of those over my life and especially since my wife died. people tend to forget a relationship is work on both sides. Not just one or a do nothing and let things work itself out type of situation.
My desire for a bdsm relationship doesn't change of that. Wanting a slave or sub doesn't mean I am going to change the principles. So I have been evaluating things as usual. And I realize that findind someone for this type of relationship may not occur. I am fine with that. I will just do what others do and play and leave it at that. For many that is all that bdsm is. *shrug* I am a realist about situations. What I want is not necessarily anything else wants and I am fine with that.
As far as the love life. After almost cussing the parental units and the cousin out over that thanksgiving holiday mess. I realized just how far into the void I have gone from having a loving marriage and believing in love and relationships. To this point of absenteeism and isolation because of the meaning won't be the same for someone else like it is to me. I have wondered if miracles can happen more than once and then I look at things now and laugh. What I want is there but that is only my desire. No telling if there is anything there or reciprocation. It is all good things are assimilated as always.
People need to understand their relationships and either put forth effort or do nothing and face the results. The whining and complaining while you sit there stagnant and silly is comical. Make moves to betterment or shut the fuck up and enjoy your bereavement.
As for me I make my intention known. Show what relationship means to me. And leave the choice o what the other part of the relationship wants to do to them. I am not making anyone do anything or sway their thinking. I will merely mark them off as an associate.
Relationships
a lost dynamic
in this current climate
One of the points Sir Mythos brought up was about each individual in a relationship or seeking one needing to be trustworthy and not looking for trust. It made so much sense. Because everyone has trust issues due to life experiences. But if you make it so or show that you are not trustworthy the relationship is dead regardless.
I applied this to those that I tell all things to and have become close to. My ride or die Ru Ru and I are the Road Warriors. Trust her with all things without a half a second thought. Munchkin and I can get our monkey slap and laugh on. The adventures solidified the love and trust that we have with each other. Shockingly I have come to deep trust with Lil Red. It is a shock because at this point in my life I am like the ivy league when it comes to those I choose to be bothered or involved with. And of course there is Auntie my only family left since my wife's death. She knows everything within reason. No need to give the christian lady a heart attack no matter how understanding she is. lol
Hell, I don't have trust or any relationships with the parental units or the ex best friend anymore. I don't ask for much but if you can't respect and ride with me. Then you are nothing to me.
My relationships evolved just like me. With emphasis on a two way relationship instead of a just me and you receive type of relationship. I had enough of those over my life and especially since my wife died. people tend to forget a relationship is work on both sides. Not just one or a do nothing and let things work itself out type of situation.
My desire for a bdsm relationship doesn't change of that. Wanting a slave or sub doesn't mean I am going to change the principles. So I have been evaluating things as usual. And I realize that findind someone for this type of relationship may not occur. I am fine with that. I will just do what others do and play and leave it at that. For many that is all that bdsm is. *shrug* I am a realist about situations. What I want is not necessarily anything else wants and I am fine with that.
As far as the love life. After almost cussing the parental units and the cousin out over that thanksgiving holiday mess. I realized just how far into the void I have gone from having a loving marriage and believing in love and relationships. To this point of absenteeism and isolation because of the meaning won't be the same for someone else like it is to me. I have wondered if miracles can happen more than once and then I look at things now and laugh. What I want is there but that is only my desire. No telling if there is anything there or reciprocation. It is all good things are assimilated as always.
People need to understand their relationships and either put forth effort or do nothing and face the results. The whining and complaining while you sit there stagnant and silly is comical. Make moves to betterment or shut the fuck up and enjoy your bereavement.
As for me I make my intention known. Show what relationship means to me. And leave the choice o what the other part of the relationship wants to do to them. I am not making anyone do anything or sway their thinking. I will merely mark them off as an associate.
Relationships
a lost dynamic
in this current climate
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