This is really not the club that one wants to join. But it is a support for men that is hard to find or fathom.
My buddy from the cigar shop called last week and told me his wife died. I was and still am slightly in shock. No health issues other than some bone density problems. Next thing, she is gone
Another cigar buddy went through the same thing like 4 years ago when his wife died. He still has the phone and facebook under her name.
They both contacted me because I knew what having your wife die was like. Only difference was that they had been married for decades and I hadn't. I have been supportive as well as going through My things with losing Chocolate Doll again. But there is strength in being able to do this for the guys.
Most have no clue or understanding about truly loving, caring and being with someone in a relationship or marriage. Too much past trauma, ego, fear and loathing for them to allow themselves these wonders.
As I have spent the last two weeks helping the latest buddy deal with things. Looking at how young I am versus their age. They are at least 30 some years older. I am glad that I could help.
Lessons being learned throughout all of this apparently
