Accountability: The Choice is Yours

ac·count·a·bil·i·ty

/əˌkoun(t)əˈbilədē/

noun

1. the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility.

   "their lack of accountability has corroded public respect"

   synonyms:

   responsibility, liability, answerability

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This was a very deep discussion that was held for a while a few weeks ago with everything that was coming out with people violating consent. I just never got around to typing this out. 

We have all violated consent in some way, shape or form in our experiences in life. It doesn't mean that you will be a repeat offender or that is your m.o.  Mistakes can be made. I know i have since I am not perfect.

With everything that happened and had to be done last year things became crystal clear about accountability. The relations I had with individuals. Receiving my cut and becoming leather.  These things and more shown a spotlight on changes that had to be made. So I took my roles to heart and addressed everything. Giving those that I loved a chance to step up to the plate as well as solidifying myself for the unknown that was ahead. It was a hard choice, transition and I didn't understand fully what everything entailed but I stepped forward.

My Accountability...unto the breach I go

Realizing that I am more seen and responsible in the community. So leading and being more active outside of my property has become more prominent. This accountability has extended to my girls by proxy and positioning with the way things are for our lives now.

This has me being supportive to those that open to it. Volunteering at things like southeast leatherfest. I won't deny and say that it doesn't feel good to see someone new smile about my interaction with them on their journey or to watch them move and grow.

I am not a teacher or prolific in knowledge of this world or life. I will share and do what I can though in this to be of help. From being security at ctx events to learning what i can about leather, bdsm and life. 

My journey is one full of accountability in ways that most have no clue about or even know. And i am fine with that.  This role has been accepted and traveled for longer than I can remember. 

How is your accountability? Like Black Sheep said, "The Choice is Yours."