It is seen that being a Dominant is only about what you want and your way or fucking and playing with whoever you want. Those that think and feel this way haven't bought a clue at all yet.
It takes an awful lot to do this. There is not a magic wand to wave and everything and everyone falls in line. You are going to deal with attitudes, brats, insecurities and defiance. Because regardless of their desire to actually want to submit to you, they have to get to that point first and there are a lot of things, experiences and more that you will have to go through.
We negotiate and vett to decide if we want to go in the same direction. But finding what you think are similar directions doesn't mean that it is the true direction or that it will even happen. Trust has to be established and maintained on both sides of the slash.
When I have mentioned things to the guys and gals at the cigar shop they think it is all about fun and games. And i let them know it is not.
The truth is that is is constant hard work. It is paying attention to multiple things at one time. Soothing, comforting and being direct with them. As much as i show and give love. I will be hard and stick to my guns to create change and achievement.
Though I have been blessed to listen to and observe folks in D/s. I do not just copy cat everything they are doing. I am not working on their play calling. My relationships both vanilla and both lifestyles have been tailor made for me and nothing less. Not what someone else said about how things must or should be.
But here is the key! A submissive has to want to attain and be open to the progress. With the understanding that this is not unicorns, tutus and hello kitty stuff. Things are going to be difficult and things are going to hurt at times. But the point is the betterment of the submissive and the journey.
So when it comes to me:
It is not about getting your way. Because that never works and only gets you on the 5150 list.
It is a hiearchy so the use of the term fair constantly is not applicable.
I am just me, myself and I. There is only one me.
This is something that I have been doing longer than being in D/s
Yes, it is wonderful when I can smile and know mine are happy and moving forward in life. But, I am the Practical Man. There are times I have to be the bad guy to push and break those unfortunate wrong comfort zones that are being held on to falsely. And even after that I will soothe and continue being proud of them.
The glamour, fame and all are for others. That is not my thing.
And lately the things have been coming up like the Battle of the Bulge. But me and the 2rd Army will be pushing on. No sleep, no surrender, no paying for real estate twice.
Enjoy your morning.
