There have been some interesting discussions with Rae, Pegasus, the girls and other females lately on all aspects of relations and relationship subjects.
From discussions of chasing females to the comment of telling the female parental unit that she was my future wife jokingly (lol she wouldn't have survived that or liked me if she had did that.)
It is hard for most to grasp my approach to dating, marriage and my relationships. So I will attempt an intro course.
Interest in you
I know females are aversion to vulnerability and rejection. Even though men are accustom to these things. (Where is that equality factor here?) For me I like a woman to know what she wants and acts on it. That means that we express that we are interested and make an effort to find out if we will work well together. We both make an executive decision in this situation. Because I hate hounding a female ie chasing them while they wait on whatever crazy schedule and rules they have in their head that only makes sense to them. And the other option which I like is to approach me and tell me your interest.
Society has laid down all this asinine crap about what people should do when it comes to relationships and dating. And frankly it is stupid because they cannot think for themselves. So, they are like lambs to the slaughter each and every day.
Add to that the chasm of differences between females and me and you have the ultimate clusterfuck at all times. So there has to be a lot of communication, understanding and acceptance. I am not who or what you had previously. I think and act in my own way.
Being with you
If I have told, shown and maintained an emotional and relationship attachment to you then I am with you. Whatever level you are at and can handle is where things are at.
I will worry and care about you. Even when you want to attempt to be argumentative about it. If I didn't then there would be no us at all.
My attraction to you won't waver as long as we are together unless you choose to do something to derail that. I do not get involved with anyone I am not attracted to physically and mentally.
We can work anything out and keep a strong relation. Or we can just let things ride and it is whatever it is going to be. Once again this is not a forced issue at all.
My take on relationships
Relationships for me has different levels. And that is because everyone cannot be treated the same way because they are not in the same place or status. I know some will disagree with this because of the ideology of this utopia style that should be present in relations but that is not reality.
The levels go from wife to girlfriend to fwb. It is because of the difference in commitment and longevity. In a society that holds marriage at a high standard this is normal. And for me being the wife means that we are closer than anyone else could possibly be. The wives are the ones who are one with you at the upper echelon of relationships.
I have always treated girlfriends and those I have been involved with as more than a friend well. And I will continue to do so. I just don't treat them like they are one of my wives. Is that wrong? Not for me. It merely is the hierarchy that I have chose to maintain and cultivate in my life.
Relationships have become so disposable that it is hard to put anything substantial or permanent in them most of the time. Most of the time it is a matter of enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts. And honestly that is sad, but the mentality that most have in these modern times. I don't want anything disposable. It has never been what I looked for in a relationship. I have used the Build a Bitch program when I have adhered to the disposable relationship ideology. And that was to get a few things between different females in order to get some form of satisfaction as a whole since I didn't have a relationship at the time.
I can give my heart and make a relationship deeply meaningful and rewarding. But that cannot be just given out to each and everyone. So you do the "get to know you dance." Waiting until you get a sign of which way things may go. That is the way of dating and trying to establishing relationships.
My preference for establishing relationships is communicating the interest and what is wanted and then getting to know each other. I am blunt about what I see, want and foresee so it is not an issue for me. I am the one that has seen and said that "you are the one I could marry." And that was what I meant no matter how they felt, what they thought or inferred from it. So I don't do all the chasing. The calling to see if you are still interested and want to spend time. If you are a woman then you will say and make the same effort that I am.
Females these days seem to be so deep into the fraudulent "think and act like a man" fantasy that it really has fucked things up. It takes strength and confidence to speak on what you want and make it happen. And that is what I like in a woman.
Closing the door
Relationships are what you make out of them. If you don't put any effort in, sit back waiting on your imaginary time table for things to go your way then you will miss out. Achieve and work for what you want and need. If you don't then leave relationships alone and do your situationships so you can be happy.
