The Final Destination is Yours

I had some great banana pancakes ala foster made for me. And damn, I am in love with them now. What is banana pancakes ala foster. Well bananas obviously and then had a reduction of walnuts, bananas and brown sugar on top of them. Scrumptious!! I didn't even have to think about syrup for once. All smiles.

I got my first custom flogger and I am happy as hell. Ready to put it to major disaster use! The red and black one pictured in my "ingredients for a good time pic" below.

Ok, putting the armored train back on it's track.

Conversations lately have been on what I will called the "final destination situation." This is knowing the destination before you get there. Or the possibility or ability to get to the destination.

In my case this has been about telling someone what I want with them and where I see it going. That would be the final destination.  But as I found out through discussion with lil red. There is a disconnect there because someone can hear me tell them I want them to be wifey and then feel that they don't have to work for it. That there is no challenge at all.

Well, that is very far from the truth. That flip the switch to off style comes about when there is no more interest in and or effort from females.

I can tell you how deeply I love you and you are the one for me. But if you as the recipient of that don't want to make the effort and do the things to keep the interest and the connection then all my love, affection and wants means absolutely nothing!

Part of keeping me are the things like:

• keeping me lusting and desiring you
• quality time
• attention

These are a few of the obvious things. But then you have the complex/simplicity things. The mental aspects of the equation. Where you have intriguing and thought provoking discussions with me. Where you gain knowledge of and are knowledgeable about me.  It is like putting mortar between cinder blocks. The blocks by themselves are strong and will be there until something strong comes by and knocks them over. The mortar between the bricks make them able to withstand the storms of life.

I know there is the generalization that if you fuck and feed a man you got him. But even us Cavemen need more than that for things to last more than a month or two. I have a dick, I am very visually stimulated. But if you want to be remembered or be with me then you have to appeal to the mental aspects. 

There's the key. You have to choose to use it. 

Hmm, I think I want some ice cream now since there are no donuts here to go with it. 

Until the next episode...Keep their heads ringing!