To Just Be aka When I Am in the Mood relations

I have heard, witnessed and discussed a phrase that I females have been using for a number of years with it comes to relationships and trying to be involved with them.  That phrase is...

Let's just be and let things happen naturally. (or similar phrases with the same effect)

Honestly this seems like some passive attempt to be standoffish but still get what they want on the intermittent schedule that they want.

What is the point of this? Is this situational relationship lite or something?

I see it as this defense system employed to give a buffer so they can feel protected but like they are committed to something they don't have to really be a part of and is disposable.

People get hurt in this thing called life through relationships, dating and much more. And the maturity just doesn't reach part of the population to learn from what happened, apply realizations and still be productively involved with others.

There have been encounters in the past where the female says this and yet still claims we are in a relationship. But communication, attention and involvement are fleeting or nonexistence. And they are happy with this.

Through my experience I have come to understand this choice more and take it as it is. Just someone that wants the facsimile of a relation based on when, where and how they feel like being bothered. So three years ago when the light bulb went off I took it all in stride and applied the fix. I gave them what they wanted. Something that resembled a relation based on their interest after I asked if they were going to work on the relationship.  Giving them what they want doesn't seem to go over well. It seems to bring out the petty, vindictive, femme nazi side of them since you decide to facilitate the type of relation that they want.

It is perfectly acceptable to not want a or be in any form of relation or relationship. By all means I applaud those that understand, know and actively just do not get involved in anything relation wise. Like they use to say, just don't fake the funk!

Be honest
Be direct
With yourself and everyone else

Go ahead and just

Be