Relational Scales

I have been chuckling about discussion about me and relations today. Well I do that most of the time but today was another one.

Offense has been taken because I differentiate between females and women. As well as the fact that I say that I see that the modern day female just wants a faux relation that is convenient and they can pull out of their purse and put back in when they want to.  Oh, and the fact that I am a misogynist and chauvinist and yadda, yadda, yadda.

So the convo was about the independent, feminist, I don't need things, professional female.  This applies to me because it is who I tend to be interested in, pick, attempt a relation with and who I married.  The one I date and the sub fall into this category of course.

The comment was made that they wanted 100 percent of a man but they didn't need him all the time or that much time at all. As I laughed I said, "so you want to rent exactly what you want for a period of time and put it back on the shelf?"  The appalled response said it all. Of course not she said. I want to enjoy it all. But wait, you want 100 percent of someone but you want it on your schedule, part time and when you want. Ummm, that is not a relation there. That is a situation. To which there was denial as I always here in replies.

As a man you have to choose to accept what the deal is or drop it and move on.  The females I deal with are the same, so I choose to deal with the situations.  I don't expect a loving relationship. I expect a sliding scale of everything with some love sprinkled in there once a Milena or so.  They are the independent and don't need anything types. So, things get penciled in when it is convenient and I just look up to see when things come off and go back on the shelf.

The basis behind these walls and defenses they put up though is because of training, experience and socialization's. It has been instilled in them that it is weak to have needs and especially when it comes to a man. And every hour of the day somewhere a female is spouting about how none of them need a man, that men basically need to be spayed and neutered so the feminists and females can feel empowered.  Here is where I challenged female critical thinking skills. If I give you your space, you get the loving and stuff you can handle, then where are the issues? Why do you have to fight the feeling and desire that you have to have a real relationship with a man. One that isn't only about you waving your female flag but a relationship that has two partners. A partner is there with you through it all and with it all. With fears, disagreements, pain, pleasure and happiness.  But according to everything that females say there is no we. There is only them and someone they want to hang out with once in a while and throw them away again afterward.

So after she recollected how I was in the beginning until now with my direct approach and my very distinct black and white type of life. Along with realizing that the females I am with had to make a decision about being with me because I am not them or the other people they are with or been with.  In the end even with situationships you get to be on the inside with me, unlike the rest of the people. That is a big difference and important. You can be special and have meaning or be just another female on the planet.

The scales that I attempt to keep in balance when it comes to relations were heavily modified.  I know what a real relationship with a feminist, independent, strong career woman is like. It is the woman that has the ability to be a we instead of just a she.  But i don't expect that from no one. I don't expect them to get out of their own way or realize the possibility.   Even when I have said what I saw and what I wanted to them. I knew that was just me and they were probably do the opposite or some variation there of.  But the balance came with removing any expectation, being direct and realizing that "it is what it is," aka they can only do what they can handle when and if they can handle it regardless.   So I will enjoy the few moments here and there for what they are. And remain centered in reality.  Love, relations, dating are dead prehistoric beasts that have been replaced by mobile disposable situations.  So you get what you seek, want and give in the way that you present it.

The scale sits tilted heavily to the exasperated side. As I laugh at the memories and times that have been had up to this point this morning.  No longer looking toward the future like an explorer, merely fortifying my journey.  As they say, "you must adapt, overcome, destroy and remake in your way."

I enjoy the conversation. Because I can see the results of my existence through the attacks on their brains, heart and soul. The internal questions on thoughts and feelings. The challenge to the female status quo.

I love the weird and uniqueness. They are parts of the woman I need and want.  But it is that type that is the hardest to actually be able to cross the line and have a fully function relationship of WE. To evolve from the female fortress of solitude thinking to where chances are taken to reach higher levels more deeply.

Team Titan was the blueprint and I am the half that is left from it!



Life is not a guarantee.  Live, love and be. Just don't hinder yourself from living.