Submission is..

Two basis of this are alignment of wills and submissive will. That means that all involved in tpe  are aligned in purpose, mission and goal. On the other part a submissive will submit to their Dominant's will even though they disagree. 

What I need is an alignment of wills. I do not expect it to be immediate. But I expect if we are long term then that would be required. It is why I focus on goals like career, achievenment, things that are wanted and desired to help them live and grow.

Which brings me to another aspect that has been thick in the submissive community it seems. Submission is about submitting. Meaning you choose to submit to me. It is NOT me taking your submission, tricking you or lulling you into submission. It is your Choice!

There is no need for this power struggle to go on. In fact this power struggle should not occur when you are supposed to be submitting to me.

My submissive had to get to an alignement of wills because it conflicted with her vanilla life. That use to giving out the orders and always being the one saying and doing things is the natural order of life outside of D/s.  I remove her from that and allow her to be removed from that.

Everyone has their own way and thing. And if it works for you another way then fine and dandy. For me I just need submission in my terms in order to be my submissive or slave. Not attitude, backlash and struggle against being submissive to a Dominant. 

When both sides of the D/s are moving forward then it is a powerful thing.