Dominant and submissive

To say that it has been a journey would be a gross understatement. lol

There have been times where the thought came across, "what is the purpose?" It is not for those that want the easy road. Believe me there is less stress and wanting to not playfully choke the shit out of your submissive at times. But that is why we control ourselves, lead and maintain.

I started this journey with no mentor or close people to talk to. I started on calls and in groups. listening and paying attention. Black Beat opened my eyes about even more things and it was off to the races from there.

First dynamic was full submersion and very little of what I should have done like set thorough, explicit guidelines, expectations and all. More love than anything resembling D/s for a moment there.

Second dynamic wasn't even one I really wanted but I choose to take a bet and then see what another style submissive would be like. This was way more structured than the first one but i still should have been more strict, discerning and thorough.

These two and that other mess i allowed happen showed me just how bad I had to revamp everything. The system has been extremely changed now. Not perfect but better than previously for whoever may show up that is new. Both vanilla and lifestyles.

I was asked how do I deal with it. Especially considering the types I am attracted to end up with and all that. It is all about balance. Because you are going to deal with their attitudes, life issues and emotions and more on a regular basis. They are not going to make any sense at all and you will have to decipher it or get them to explain it finally. You have those that will want to rebel against you and fight their submission, you and the journey. Those you have to choose if it is worthwhile or not.

I have had submissive tell me I need to do it like this other guy because it works for me. Or you need to find a mentor so this will work. And I have heard other things. Reality is that it takes two at least in this to make and want things to work. Submission is not a gift. It is a choice. And if they are fighting their choice then they obviously don't want to be there so let the do them.

And there is this misconception about this is all about the Dominant getting all that they want. A real Dominant doesn't focus on that. We focus on our submissive. Like I make sure that her educational, career goals and other important things are worked towards, achieved and fulfilled. She serves me through her representation, her submission to me and alignment of will.

I have seen the disasters.
Watched and been involved in the topping from the bottom mess.
Stood in the fire as well outside of it.

D/s is a beautiful, stable and nurturing life if those involved are willing, able and down for the journey together.

Poetic Understanding: The Nexus

The Nexus

Holding separate volatile universes together

Underneath the weight of the galaxy

While straddling two black holes

That is the relational space where you will find me

Land mines for situationship enemies

Open arms for the open minded and ready

There is no blueprint

This shit is not easy

Taking strong willed women

Being the lynchpin of being

While adjusting to and holding down things

Holding burning suns

On erratic courses

With strength, wile and will

While still letting them

Run free and be themselves

So tell me again

About what is or isn’t a relationship

Or how it is all about sex

Because I am watching you struggle with

Your situationship

And you have the nerve to talk about

This poly dynamic

Oh wait

That’s right you are an expert

Always whining and crying

About what was said or done

So tell me again

What I should do

With your anti knowledgeable self?

I will be here waiting

With my three or more

But don’t rush

I am sure you have plenty wisdom

To depart

From yourself

From the chocolatezeus collection  2/24/18  ©

Poetry: Then There Was Zeus

Then There Was Zeus

Cloaked in silence

Unknown, known to the public

Dripped and dipped in

Chocolate

Enemy

Champion

Eternal villain

Laid with sexy ladies upon his arms

Silent but deadly charm

A nuclear fire mixed with a nuclear storm

He is that atomic storm

All in one

Love so ferocious

Apathy make you wonder if he is even alive anymore

Hard and soft to the core

All depending on what side

You warrant and on

Slipping into the light

To insert all of his darkness

Ignoring your judgements

Attempts to recreate or disrupt

His journey maintained

Direct

Uniquely different

Unchanged

Upon his love

Things of importance

Those people and things that are allowed in his world

All remain

As the journey through

Heaven and Hell

He fears no adversary

Chocolatezeus

The

Lord and king of

His existential plane

From the chocolatezeus collection   2/24/18  ©

Poetic Movement: Ready or Not There you Were

Ready or Not There you Were

Tell me what you want

What you seek

Are you ready?

When your words meet actions

Those things you claimed

That you want and needed

Go into action

Oh wait

Back track

Retractions

Are you ready?

Claims you made

Now fall on your own deaf ways

Stains upon your transparency

Fabricated cage

Think

Feel

Are you ready?

The truth is out there

Somewhere

Like the X Files

I guess you were

Not Ready

From the chocolatezeus collection  2/24/18  ©

Poetic Moments: Woken

Woken

Severed links

Severed ties

Links and ties

That unbind

destinyUnwound

Unresolved

Empty hearts

Empty minds

Empty lives

Unaltered timeline

Destiny denied

Laughter

For

I am

Woken

From the chocolatzeus collection  2/24/18  ©

The Week in Rear View: My Signature and Marks Left in the Ether

Valentines day came and went. Missed celebrating 10 years ago because it was fun, intimate and everything. Now, oh well in this day and age.

The fortress is stronger and distances have been increased to make those involved more comfortable in their lives and journey. *go team* Microscopic analysis has revealed the cracks, faultiness and mistakes I made in my decisions. The rectification at the Abbey of Havoc has begun and picking up Zeus speed.

Focus
Dedication
Commitment
Service

Cue...Too Short, Ice T, Tupac and Poison Clan!

The male parental unit is sick and probably getting sicker down there. His daughter is going to have to handle that stuff as well. I will do my job as usual of fix everything while staying out of it. lol

I have had some good entertainment and laughs at females. From the chick trying to talk to me and upset because I won't take responsibility for my past like she thought I should. Monkey, you don't know me like the rest of the 99.9%. And as I told her slow as I took my responsibility. I made the mistake of being involved with the females that don't work out and I fix that and move on.  So she told me her libido dried up and I was like ok lol. Then I deleted her ass with the rest of the frauds. This apparently bothered her so she had to come back and tell me that she would do one better and block me. lmfao wooooo!

I know society tells females that they need to make sure to put men down, control them and tell them what to do, what they think and how they feel. Because that is what has been the case most definitely with everyone lately. But I am not the one that will work on. Either you understand and accept me like I accept you or you can bounce. *who you with?*

Cue... They love Big Poppa, Ready For The World, Aaron Hall!

I saw Black Panther last Thursday and it was great. And not great because it was almost all black people or African garb. But because it was a quality storyline and movie. It put the Black Panther on the map in a major way. Where they even had theaters mysteriously unable to show it on the opening weekend. It showed character and detail into the characters in the movie and their lives. Giving attention to making the movie great and not relying on just catering to africans and that everyone in it is black.  The messages were abundant and profound. And yeah I like Killmonger because he showed the side that the whining asses always are opening their mouths about. And you can see how that is going on any social media or so called news outlet.  MUST SEE! I have seen it 3 times already. I even had to laugh at red after she asked me why she would take her students to see it when I asked her last year if she was taking them. Then I read that she took them lol.  Hell, we were all in the theater laughing talking and enjoying the movie. With real comic and marvel fans to those that were only there because it was black people and African stuff.  And there were some fat asses in the theater dressed up and not.

We hit the poetry night too and had a great time listening to poetry. Some thick chicks were painting and doing poetry. I ended up with the painting that lady Picasso with her thick fine ass was doing. My signature painting. Showcasing one of the things that I do as much as possible. Cup and grab ass. lol And when I realized what she was painting I had to laugh. Told her how it fit me and she was all smiles with her big tuttues ass and them curves. The other lady was just cute and thick with a nice body. Both of them were definitely faceable and would make a nice threesome especially with the hot ass poetry that they did. But you can see the painting up above lol.

Hit box car arcade and went back to being a kid with all the old arcade games. I would have really been geeked if they had a Dragon's Lair game there. But they had ms paceman and the old mortal combat games and even old pinball games and the ninja turtles and centipede. And what can I say with one dollar mimosas  lol

Cue... DMX, Eminem, KRS ONE


Back to business. There are some new things that popped up as I watch the old things fade or remove themselves. Still a lot to deal with and do but as it says on my email "Army of One, Come Get it Like the Red Cross."

I am going to deal with this 10th year and see what is left towards the end of the year. Somethings seem like they will fall off well before that though.

Next movie stop is going to be Deadpool 2. lol

oh yeah it's true, it's true!



Live life. Actually love and show love to those you care about and love. And make things happen!

Poetry: When I Gladly Risk it All

When I Gladly Risk It All

Saw in you

Everything

A future

Filled with love, passion and

Destiny that eclipses

Tripping the light fantastic

I said and showed

I love you

You are part of my soul to me

Told you I wanted to marry you

Without

A deadline or ultimatum

I gave you my position

Heart and feeling

Information given freely

Transfixed

Time revealed evidence

Whirlwinds of silence

Feeling nothing

Standing in the eye of the storm

Still content and open

Exposing your realities

I gave you my available outline

Inclusion of our conclusion

You choose

You chose

Time to just let it stand

Unflinching

Unchanged

Still the same loving and caring

Man

Regardless

I still am

Always will be

The

Love and passion

Director of

Direct and uniqueness

That I am

From the chocolatezeus collection  2/14/18  ©

Drama, Attitudes and Moments of Nothingness: week in review

So two weekends ago we buried the female parental unit. To say that went off without issues would be a huge lie. But when you are dealing with folk, you get what you get. I will just say damn I am glad that is over and people can stop asking me questions and upset because I am not crying and caring on.

The bullshit ass drama I ended up in during that same weekend even though I didn't have anything to do with it and I wasn't even in Houston then. But so called dubminants and their little so called slave things needed to have something to say concerning me all because they were outed about their service to the chick in question coming to present like they asked her to. But instead of worry about how worthless them, their service, their lack of honor and respect were they decided to involve me. Saying I told people what happened. Clearly they have no fucking clue how much I detest humans and everything. Especially with the way things were last year until now. Their best bet was to leave this Evil motherfucker out of their bullshit but they couldn't so any further issues I will show them who I am, since they have no clue.

There were plenty of attitudes flying around last week. It was like there was a conus meeting about it and they all decided to come together and present the attitude week.  But it was all good because it solidified things even further. Further compartmentalized those that needed their spot put on lock down just how they wanted it to be.

There was an in depth convo with little one that helped her and allowed me to do what I am supposed to do as well. Boxes checked and my job remains. I am glad I can help, support and guide her on her submissive journey as well as everything else.

I am most definitely overdue to leaving and getting out of here. I think I am going to hit indy or Chicago for some Giordano's and then head to htown. Time to hang out and enjoy some time again.  So even though I am avoiding and not being bothered with folk I am going to hit some spots. And I am going to do at least one Master/slave conference this year at least. Hopefully that won't have issues as much as everything else has had.

I am more than ready to check out Black Panther Thursday. But I am NOT going to see it because it is a black film. I am NOT going to see it over some African stuff. I am going to see it because I am a comic book fan and the Black Panther character is great. And this should be a very pivotal point in comic book movies and marvel cinema. So I am on the countdown to fan day.

An all new journey began last year. And the road has had more than it's share of obstacles to this point. But it has proven to be the path required and needed. Removing and sequestering people as well as evaluations and placement. Out with the old and in with the True!

Oh, and the ACC women's basketball tournament is back! Yaayyy. I can't wait to go again like I use to. I am not sure if I will do it this year or wait until next year to go again yet. But it will be back to watching skill, fun and excitement.

Well that is a hit the highlights recap of some of the stuff that went on since the funeral weekend. There are a lot more but that is not for here anyway.

Off to the evil posts....lol

Trust: The Final Infraction

it is well known and documented that I don't trust anyone really. Hell, I have learned that people choose their level of trust with me through their actions and abilities.  But when I give you my trust and the opportunity then it's meaning is highly significant.

But see trust is not only about the truth but also about the application of when and how to handle interactions, emotions, feelings and more. The things that are not so simple.

I trust you to value the insider trading parts of me that you get when we are in a relationship or dynamic.

I trust you to care for and hold sacred emotions and feelings that are expressed and not seen by others outside of my circles.

I trust you to understand when it is not the time to bring up yours and others agendas during my and our critical moments in time.

These things are not that difficult I think. Well, for me they are not.


This is one of the things that separate those that can trust versus those that cannot. Like I explained in a group. If you are going to be together or try to be with someone you have to have trust. But if someone errodes or ignores that trust then their is a cause and effect to it.


Does it hurt when you can no longer trust the person or persons that you are in a relationship or dynamic with? Yes. But it sheds light upon everything and then you have to make decision about what to do next.


Take heed and be vigilant.

Letter to Chocolate Doll: Really?

Letter to Chocolate Doll: Really?

First I will say that you are severely missed and I miss you severely.  You are still an A.S.S. but you will always be my A.S.S. and that is all that counts.

I know you have watched over me and all. Done your thing even in death of being a woman among women. But this is some bullshit. I did what I agreed to do if you died. I have lived and I have tried the dating thing and all that. You must be paying me back for shit with the ones that you have sent to me and all. The craziness that has occurred apparently continues to keep you amused.

Oh, and your selection of red and bgp obviously you did in order to make me suffer and learn some shit. They were obviously handpicked by you of course. Liking and caring about them you definitely knew it would be an adventure. And thus why your ass put them there. Lol

Yes, I know that It has not gone according to how you probably planned or liked. But you know me and how I am and what I require. Nothing is the same and a lot of things are dead or dying now.  I gave it the college and boy scout try but it is what it is. Modern day de-evolution has occurred.

Wish you could have been here for ma’s funeral. You were definitely missed and needed. You understand the ability to support and comfort without all the issues, attitudes and other things that should have no relevance.  So many people showed up that it reminded me of your funerals and Big Ma’s. But you would have been proud I stayed to myself the whole time and was cordial. Well cordial for a caveman.

I hear you fussing about my decision and changes I have made in this dating, situationship, relation and dynamic thing. But hey you know I have to give them what they want. Lol  They are comfortable and it is what they wanted so it is all good.

Everyone still misses your smile, energy and spirit.  We were laughing about how you were with the families, coworkers and everyone you came in contact with.  You always have and continue to leave your mark.

I know my heart is colder. A change with the times. And I know you are saying that it shouldn’t be. That I should remain how I was.  But I am a modern chauvinistic caveman. Lol I tried. But honestly there hasn’t been any need for me to be that loving and caring person anymore.  Yes, yes, yes I hear you.  And it was necessary.  I am not as lovable and likeable as you are Chocolate Doll. I am just the ABM caveman. Lol And I haven’t done the build a bitch program again…yet. Lmao  So that has to count for something.

But could you teach? Show them the way? Get them to grasp and understand? I am just saying! It would make things easier and have things work out and go smoothly for once. Especially get them to understand the ability to have a real relationship that is love, caring, independence and all without all the defensive measures, fear and loathing, rejection and disdain that they keep currently. And that it is not about comparing to you but actually them achieving something at a higher level than they are use to and comfortable with. A level of intimacy, desire, support and living with someone that feels the same way.  But they remain stuck on disillusionment and fighting achieving that deep level. This is a very disposable relation society now. So I just give them the disposable situations they want until it is time for them to leave

Can you believe later on this year will be ten years since we got married. A long time ago it seems as well as just a moment ago at times.  Over a month ago it was a proposal and Queen Bear delivery to start things off ten years ago.  I am still laughing at that moment now.

Good looking out on everything though. You are the best of the best!

Hugs and kisses. Say hello to Big Ma, Uncle Raph and Aunt Numi.

And can you help your old husband out some more with the two you sent me and the rest. I want things to work but you know how I am. I am not fighting nobody that don’t want nothing.

See you later.

Your loving husband

Chocolate Zeus

2/5/18  ©

A Week in Review...Candid Moments in Death and Peace

So yesterday we buried the female parental unit. There was so many people at the service and the viewing at the funeral home. Those from bama to up north and everywhere. Everything was good. I stayed away from the male parental unit so not to deal with the issues of his dementia and whatever else he has going on.

So this is going to be behind the curtains type of post...

I have always done my duty as son, being and alien that I am. Everyone but one will never understand it based on their lives and that being the only way that they can look at things. I wasn't into family stuff because I was hatched to be independent and not need all that attention and everything. When I got married though it was the complete opposite because that was my family and I needed my family to be cared for, loved, protected and close to. 

So I wasn't a momma's boy or up under the father. I was just being me and did my job. 

I have known my mother was going to die for months. So, I was already prepared and ready for things. The male parental and their daughter may not have been ready but I was. 

With that said I know everyone expects everyone to cry and fall out when someone dies. That is not me. I grieve, deal with and handle things internally like all things I do must happen. Just because I am not falling on the floor crying doesn't mean I am not feeling anything. 

Many times people asked me how I was and their response was that they didn't believe me when I said i was fine. Reality is that I was and I am fine.  

The things that affected me the most were the memories of Chocolate Doll and Big Ma dying along with really wanting and needing someone that could fill the role of comforter that I needed without all the issues and drama. Just that one time where it is about me and everything being right in those moments. 

But I am thankful.

For that showed their concern and caring. The support and well wishes. The outpouring of concern. Even a guy from the cigar shop that I have not known that long came out to the country and attended the funeral .

This truly showed me who is there and who isn't. Along with showing me the necessary actions that are now required to be taken. 

I remain humbled and thankful.

Poetry: Chain of Command

Chain of Command

Come one, come all

There is enough room for all of you

To be enemies against me

So join the movement

Join the force

Just me against all of you

Enemies of this state

Taking stake against me

Intimately and afar

Life Unscripted Army of one

With a general on call

Still they think they know me

That they can change and defeat me

The beginning of their fallacies

With a ride on an apocalyptic heart beat

As the ice, ice has formed

The ramparts may be worn but strong

And mass destruction is my

Natural form

From the circles of trust

To the contracts of connection

With failed Ultraman type

Relation realizations

Rouge subordinates

Runaways

Sabotagers of

Life

Intimacy

Living it all fully

The breakdown came

Rebellion was made

Results remained the same

Hierarchy remains

Command structure retained

Chain of command still King

From the chocolatezeus collection  2/1/18  ©

Very interesting, Interesting indeed

There have been a number of eclipsing light bulb effects that have gone off lately. With everything that has been going on it allowed me to truly have a clear space to de evolve a number of things into proper context.

It was definitely an interesting weekend. Considering shit going down that I had no part of and was mentioned in. Ehh, that is humans for you.

Rolling by yourself with no one else makes for quiet times with no attitudes or turmoil. Well, none created by me. lol

I realized my decisions that made last year and the protocols I set into place where visionary and damn on point considering actions, activities and observations that have happened so far this year.  *I love it when a plan comes together*

Funeral stuff is done. I am fine. My emotions and feelings are fine. Besides memories of burying my wife and my grandmother I am good.

This also put into very clear perspective of relations, relationships, dynamics and those I have let into my circles.

After a good chuckle and some confirmation today. I am going to do what I do regardless.  Keep moving forward relentlessly. Take no prisoners. And keep the Life Unscripted Team held high to it's truest form and reality.

Be Me
Motherfucking Me


*Me, Myself and I*


off to the spot now to let the pen spit and reality split