So between conversations, conferences and conference calls there has been a plethora of information exchange, observation and a whole lot more. lol
In my years of experience I have been able to observe and experience D/s in a multitude of ways.
From the fraudulent dominant, submissive and slave. Only there to usurp and control things that make them feel better. Unable to live the roles that they claim.
To those that are just lost and need a kick in the head to get them on the right path.
And those that are doing their thing to the best of their ability and they don't think that they infallible or know everything.
My Journey
In the submissive that I have had there has been a multitude of all kinds of things. From mistakes I made. To choosing the wrong ones. To holding onto things that were not going to work at all. All of these were my choices. There has been some success and plenty of learning for sure.
Learned that if they claim to be submissive or slave and they steady are trying to goad and change you then that is not what they are. If they are trying to mold you into someone else for their comfort then they are attempting to usurp the hierarchy all together.
Submission is a choice that they have to make for themselves. Not something that has to be ripped from or beaten out of them. It is their will and desire to follow your lead. To know that you will keep their best interest and well being at the forefront. And that is extremely real for me. I am going to keep their well being as one of the most important things. in the same token if they are not wanting to be a part of this then you have to cut your losses and let them go do their thing. It is their choice to submit willingly and do their role or not. If it is not then say thanks and take care.
Vetting, understanding and consideration are supremely important steps I found. Instead of just taking on some experiment to see another style of what was called a submissive. I needed to lay the gauntlet down and put them through it to validate their worth. Experience taught me that valuable lesson.
I have had some great service by those that have been under me as well as those that are not mine at all. And all have been appreciated. I love seeing, enjoying and being a part of what service from a slave and submissive is like when done properly.
One of the most important things though is the Alignment of Wills. That need for my charges to understand, see and seek to achieve the goals that have been laid out for us. Goals that encompass employment, education, lifestyle, journey, adventures and more. Without this there is nothing but backlash, attitude, dysfunction and Burger King mentalities. Something I seriously wish I had fully understood and put completely into full effect at the beginning.
It isn't about commanding them to do my bidding. It is about the help, support and guidance that I bring. About helping with decisions, formulating plans, communicating needs and wants. All to achieve goals that are set for my submissive. So yeah it is not all that selfish shit you had in your head , heard from the experts or saw on some fake bdsm thing. This is real life where we work on the betterment.
I am not at the end of my journey. I am still in the thick of it. Learning, growing and fixing things as I keep on moving. Building on my experiences and what I have learned has led me to be miles away from where I started. And I look forward to being miles away from where I am currently in the future.
Don't settle, be complacent or fraudulent about what role you want. Make it happen.
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