Perceptions...
They have been revealed, reinforced and reiterated.
The attitudes lately have been rather out of pocket. The lack of understanding what a submissive is to me has been in a negative spin apparently.
Fairness and equality are things that remain wanted in a hierarchial relationship repeatedly. There has been issues of trust as well as puzzlement of the ability to even be a submissive. Many of things seem inherent within the female gender it seems. Whether they are weird or even to the point of extra weird.
So the journey has been running through the jungles of vietnam while being chased by the viet cong many times.
I have found the ability to communicate between a man and a female is still like a trip to mars. There seems to be a need for them to interpret what is said almost all the time. So, it is a road that is hard pressed to travel to achieve the communication goal. With trying to read my facial expressions, body language and all is really a bad way to interpret me unless you have known me deeply. And honestly there is only one person left on the planet to be close enough to have a shot at that right now. It doesn't mean that someone can't get to the point if they chose and made the effort.
One of the important thngs that people disregard and ignore is...Effort. That drive to achieve things. In this case I am talking about, relationships and dynamics. You have to maintain and show effort and interest or whatever it is will DIE. Yeah, yeah, yeah we have built females to hide or not have emotions, attachment or anything that would resemble a relationship with another person. But in this scenario there is only the Epic failure to be expected. Everyone is not the same but the requirements are still rather standard on an individual basis.
Which brings me to a subject...
If I tell you I love you, care about you and involved you truly in my life then you are special and a part of my life. I don't and won't treat you like everyone else unless you want to be with the common everyday people I don't pay attention to mostly. I have found this is such an issue for some because their need for me to treat others better. When they should be happy and basking in where I have them in my life and importance.
In the same token I have realized that females have and will have everyone on the same level when it comes to relationships, friendships, dynamics and whatever else. And in this scenario I find myself downshifting things to that holding position. Because if my worth and value are the same as everyone else then obviously I do not need you to be important in my life or anything. So, I merely register you as an authorized user and no longer someone to be close to anymore. And this is for poly as well as non poly situations. The thought that boyfriend, Dominant or whatever is the same as the chick you are girlfriends with is unacceptable to me.
I deal with the weird ones. They stand out to me. Sometimes it has been a thin line between weird good and weird psycho monkey but I have way more positive than the few bad ones. And the bad ones were extraordinary.
After some celebrating with hurricane matthew. Some seriously bad service at days inn and cracker barrel over the weekend. Things have been put into perspective more and I am keeping it pushing.
With those things said I will end it here...
"The beatings will continue until I am happy!!!!"
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Sunday, October 09, 2016
Assimilate and Exterminate: D/s Learning and Adventures
As it popped into my head today. It would be great if the Borg and Daleks joined together to take over the multiverse.
I have experienced and learned. Not only from D/s but even more in dealing with females. Because communications with females is like deciphering and trying to communicate a 986 encryption key. You speak directly their feelings get hurt and they come up with anything but what you said. When you are not being literal, then everything is taken extremely literal. It is like dealing with Bizarro world many times.
One of the things that I learned to do a whole lot better with were negotiations when it comes to D/s. If I ever, ever, ever do it again I am going to have to have a 15 page document that covers everything and it will be verified by my lawyer. That way there is no whining, carrying on and interpretation of anything. Lay everything out to the atomic level when it comes to a dynamic. And once that is all done to Never accept anything less than those things on the list.
It has been asked what submission and service is to me. And my answer is that being in service to and my submissive means:
I have experienced and learned. Not only from D/s but even more in dealing with females. Because communications with females is like deciphering and trying to communicate a 986 encryption key. You speak directly their feelings get hurt and they come up with anything but what you said. When you are not being literal, then everything is taken extremely literal. It is like dealing with Bizarro world many times.
One of the things that I learned to do a whole lot better with were negotiations when it comes to D/s. If I ever, ever, ever do it again I am going to have to have a 15 page document that covers everything and it will be verified by my lawyer. That way there is no whining, carrying on and interpretation of anything. Lay everything out to the atomic level when it comes to a dynamic. And once that is all done to Never accept anything less than those things on the list.
It has been asked what submission and service is to me. And my answer is that being in service to and my submissive means:
- Respecting me, us and our journey
- Completing tasks, assignments and services that I ask of you
- Achieving the goals that are set for you and our dynamic
- The ability to adapt, understand, comprehend and act upon this dynamic. Not your past ones.
- To adhere to the hierarchy, protocols, rules and concerns
So, yes D/s is not all ass beatings and fucking. It is a lot of work. Especially when you have those that would be more than a handful even in their conventional vanilla environments.
On the flipside...
I have a new kilt and that made me happy. Thanks little one! And I sported it at the last party in woodbridge. Had the people in the hotel looking crazy when I left and returned. It was funny. The guys at the cigar shop definitely complimented me on it. Hell Mr Boston showed me the 5.11 tactical site to get the tactical kilt. He even offered to loan me the money. lol
There has been public play. That has been interesting firsts with them. But after concern things were fine. I never paid much attention to those watching but they commented that they enjoyed the scenes.
Upcoming...
Change is coming. As always and as the name means there will be more upheaval with everything. After some more thinking (yeah, like I don't do enough of that per minute) most everything will have to be reconstructed and revised. Lessons learned!
With that said.
Me, the Daleks and the Borg are going to assimilate and exterminate as many sentient beings as possible. So grab your tardis and run or hit that warp factor 22 and be out.
*Evil One is out*
Wednesday, September 28, 2016
Poet: THEY SEND ME
I am who and what you love to hate
Your public enemy number
One
Two
And three
They send me
No concern about your
Emotions
Thoughts
Or feelings
They send me
Disconnected from humanity
Killing your very souls
Leaving you a husk
Uninhabitable
They send me
To rip out
Your heart and soul
Your dreams and Joys
They send me
To feed you death
Despair
Your fears
Over and Over
Again
They send me
To annihilate
The control
Safety and
Security
That you think that you
Keep
They send me
Who is they you say?
*evil laughter*
That's fucking classified
Just know that they fucking sent me
And your next in line to find out
The finality of time
from the chocolatezeus collection 9/28/16
Sunday, September 18, 2016
Sensitive Fucking People Need Culling
Yes this is a rant.
I am so sick and tired of sensitive people and their mess. They are always having issue with something or another that has nothing to fucking do with them.
Examples:
I don't like cigars so none of you should have them
My principles dictate what you should do and how you should feel
I comment on someone being sexier rope bottom than the current girlfriend
or my favorite
You shouldn't do that because people don't do that.
Fuck that bullshit.
But I tell you what it let's me know who to avoid and ignore. And I appreciate that shit.
Rant over.
Time for food, football and drinking.
Ibiza and Fetish Night
Now, I avoid downtown like the plague. I don't want to be around drunks and the like. But rope class is held at the ibiza night club where they normally have drag on fridays and everything. Well after rope class tonight they had a fetish party.
Rope class was interesting. They are doing suspensions now. I really need to work on my rope work more but I do not have a rope bottom to practice on so it is hard for me. So, I am stuck in a quandry with that. I want to be able to tie someone up and get my skills together but I cannot. Damn, my picky and difficult self.
There were quite a few people that ended up coming. Mostly vanilla folks it seemed. But it was a different environment from what I am use to. I am use to being around only people in the lifestyle. So, I watched the suspension and tying that was going on around and on the covered pool table. The vanilla folks were shocked and amazed. Even this group of black females wanted to try it. And the cutest one out of the bunch I got carebear to tie her so she could experience it. And afterwards her girls tried it as well. Even the 6ft 4 amazon with the great big chocolate titties and the face that would make frankenstein look like a male model.
As always I stayed to myself because I am anti social and honestly I know of people in the group but do not know them on a personal level. But they have always been nice and speak to me.
I did meet this girl curvaceous kitten and we talked for quite a while about her bucket list, rope and the different groups along with her cat play. I liked her coreset dress she had on. It was cool and we had good convo and laughter.
I am somewhat active in the group here. Meaning, I attend things I can, when I can. I know many people have issues being black and not attending a strictly black group's events. But reality is that is not going to happen here. Plus it really doesn't make a difference about skin color and all if things are right.
Most definitely an interesting night.
Rope class was interesting. They are doing suspensions now. I really need to work on my rope work more but I do not have a rope bottom to practice on so it is hard for me. So, I am stuck in a quandry with that. I want to be able to tie someone up and get my skills together but I cannot. Damn, my picky and difficult self.
There were quite a few people that ended up coming. Mostly vanilla folks it seemed. But it was a different environment from what I am use to. I am use to being around only people in the lifestyle. So, I watched the suspension and tying that was going on around and on the covered pool table. The vanilla folks were shocked and amazed. Even this group of black females wanted to try it. And the cutest one out of the bunch I got carebear to tie her so she could experience it. And afterwards her girls tried it as well. Even the 6ft 4 amazon with the great big chocolate titties and the face that would make frankenstein look like a male model.
As always I stayed to myself because I am anti social and honestly I know of people in the group but do not know them on a personal level. But they have always been nice and speak to me.
I did meet this girl curvaceous kitten and we talked for quite a while about her bucket list, rope and the different groups along with her cat play. I liked her coreset dress she had on. It was cool and we had good convo and laughter.
I am somewhat active in the group here. Meaning, I attend things I can, when I can. I know many people have issues being black and not attending a strictly black group's events. But reality is that is not going to happen here. Plus it really doesn't make a difference about skin color and all if things are right.
Most definitely an interesting night.
Saturday, September 17, 2016
Red Alert, Shields and Battle Stations
This has been a rough week. My attitude and mood has been on the napalm mode. Things have really tested everything negatively this week across the board. I am still standing through the onslaught and turmoil.
There was a moment that was the reciprocation of kindness. I had stopped in the cigar shop for a little bit and was sitting there dealing with everything and pulling rabbits out of my ass when an elderly guy came in the store with someone else he knew. He spoke, saying "there's my boy." I said hello and didn't think much of it at all. People know me from seeing me in the shop all the time and my Lunatics. So, I am still pulling rabbits when I look up and the same guy that spoke is handing me a Lunatic and talking about thank you. I am stunned and confused. I immediately said that you don't and didn't have to. He said he did and smiled as he went out the door with his friend. I had to ask Tim the owner what just happened. It comes out that I had forgotten that this same elderly man had came in and was getting a piece for his cane and didnt have cash and couldn't use his discover card since they do not take it. So, I paid for it and he thanked me and that was all I needed. a good deed done. time reminds me that this was the guy. I was like wow!
Even in predictive modeling there are known, unknowns that will occur. Those things that you know something crazy is possible and it happens. That has come up this week in a way that caught me a bit off guard. I still haven't really decided what to do about it if anything. I am letting some time eat through this for a minute first.
The parental units situation and them have worsened and it only seems to be moving further in that direction with more speed. So, some decisions will have to be made that I dont want to have to do with them but I am the only one that can and will be able to somehow do it. I am going to have to wade even farther into the Mirkwood swamps in this battle.
I hung with Rich for a day. Thick pork chops, fries and stuffed mushrooms yesterday. And those damn pork chops were thick. I had never cooked them that thick before. But they were damn good. Some tony chercherans, garlic powder and pepper seasonings and then some chef made bbq sauce after that. It was good to just laugh, stay cool, smoke and carry on. Widowers Unite!!
Relations? Yeah, will have to talk about that another time.
We will just say as the title says. We are at war and the mode I am in is ferocity and carnage with tactical destruction.
There was a moment that was the reciprocation of kindness. I had stopped in the cigar shop for a little bit and was sitting there dealing with everything and pulling rabbits out of my ass when an elderly guy came in the store with someone else he knew. He spoke, saying "there's my boy." I said hello and didn't think much of it at all. People know me from seeing me in the shop all the time and my Lunatics. So, I am still pulling rabbits when I look up and the same guy that spoke is handing me a Lunatic and talking about thank you. I am stunned and confused. I immediately said that you don't and didn't have to. He said he did and smiled as he went out the door with his friend. I had to ask Tim the owner what just happened. It comes out that I had forgotten that this same elderly man had came in and was getting a piece for his cane and didnt have cash and couldn't use his discover card since they do not take it. So, I paid for it and he thanked me and that was all I needed. a good deed done. time reminds me that this was the guy. I was like wow!
Even in predictive modeling there are known, unknowns that will occur. Those things that you know something crazy is possible and it happens. That has come up this week in a way that caught me a bit off guard. I still haven't really decided what to do about it if anything. I am letting some time eat through this for a minute first.
The parental units situation and them have worsened and it only seems to be moving further in that direction with more speed. So, some decisions will have to be made that I dont want to have to do with them but I am the only one that can and will be able to somehow do it. I am going to have to wade even farther into the Mirkwood swamps in this battle.
I hung with Rich for a day. Thick pork chops, fries and stuffed mushrooms yesterday. And those damn pork chops were thick. I had never cooked them that thick before. But they were damn good. Some tony chercherans, garlic powder and pepper seasonings and then some chef made bbq sauce after that. It was good to just laugh, stay cool, smoke and carry on. Widowers Unite!!
Relations? Yeah, will have to talk about that another time.
We will just say as the title says. We are at war and the mode I am in is ferocity and carnage with tactical destruction.
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Run Silent, Run Deep
Things have been everything but calm and peaceful since my return. But that is why I prepare for things. Some attempted ambushes and attacks. But I expected that from females.
See the key to compartmentalization and sterilization is your ability to adapt to the situation. To place it properly in it's context.
As Sarge use to say:
See the key to compartmentalization and sterilization is your ability to adapt to the situation. To place it properly in it's context.
As Sarge use to say:
When the enemy rears it's head you take off it's head and all the heads near them!!
Ultra ABM time!!
Poetry: Temporarl Displacement
Temporal Displacement
The clock
Ticks
How long have we been
in this
Relationship
Oops sorry
This situationship
shit
Caught up in the
rapture of
Antiquated socialized
Self destruction
Hiding behind your
Wizard of Oz
Curtain
Saying just hold on
Time will make
everything better
Just keep giving me
your all
Ummm
Time is not yours to
command
And it will just keep
Moving on
Just like
Feelings and thoughts
But you thought
That you could make
me wait
Just discard us
Until you did
Whatever your thing
was
When you don’t
Cultivate
Invigorate
And maintain
Then
Time and
relationships
Die or move on
While you sit there
Throwing your tepid
fits
Remember this
You chose
Made a decision
And we weren’t
An important factor
So you have been
greeted by
The stop watch
Where time is only
Moment to moment
Enjoy the seconds
Then
We are
Gone
From the
chocolatezeus collection 9/13/16 ©
Sunday, September 11, 2016
My Circles are Your Choice: A Zeus Principle
There has been issues, backlash, dismay that I have different circles that pertain to my life and those that are in it or interact with me.
The circles are labels given to levels of connection with me. And they have definitely been tested and proven this past weeks worth of time.
If you are unable to be open with me and you have your defenses up so you can keep your distance then I keep you in the outer circle until you leave.
The inner circle means that you have invested more and may actually want to be around for longer than a minute or two. But you are still looking from the outside some time so I understand that and keep you here.
The inner sanctum is where those that I am close to and can accept, understand and appreciate me and all that is me reside. The place where all of me is present and accounted for without a doubt and you are invested in the same way.
Lastly there is the throne room. And this is where the true achiever resides in splendor.
The circles are what you are comfortable with when it comes to me. So you choose that path. You get to be more special than whoever is in a circle further out or not at all.
Everyone doesn't get the same treatment. Everyone doesn't connect in the same way or with the same intensity either. Just like any evaluation. You are analyzed and placed accordingly into or out of my life.
So there is the explanation
The circles are labels given to levels of connection with me. And they have definitely been tested and proven this past weeks worth of time.
If you are unable to be open with me and you have your defenses up so you can keep your distance then I keep you in the outer circle until you leave.
The inner circle means that you have invested more and may actually want to be around for longer than a minute or two. But you are still looking from the outside some time so I understand that and keep you here.
The inner sanctum is where those that I am close to and can accept, understand and appreciate me and all that is me reside. The place where all of me is present and accounted for without a doubt and you are invested in the same way.
Lastly there is the throne room. And this is where the true achiever resides in splendor.
The circles are what you are comfortable with when it comes to me. So you choose that path. You get to be more special than whoever is in a circle further out or not at all.
Everyone doesn't get the same treatment. Everyone doesn't connect in the same way or with the same intensity either. Just like any evaluation. You are analyzed and placed accordingly into or out of my life.
So there is the explanation
Poetic Realization: My Master Chief Mentality
My Master Chief Mentality
I look upon the world
Through my unchanged
Presence
Unreadable
Unpredictable
I am merely
A Noh mask
Showing you fully
While dashing your
normalcies
Against the jagged
rocks of
Your mental
capacities
I am the armed
Black hole
Abyss
Of your pretension
Historic expectations
One man
Singular in purpose
Original design
I lead
Protect and serve
Give both
Love and apathy
Disconnected
So that positions and
roles
Are preserved
Behind this polarized
face plate
Regardless of what
you cannot
See, interpret or
prognosticate
Remains
The same person
That cares, loves,
protects
And treats you
Better than
That populace
Or
Would you like to
change?
Be the enemy
So you can understand
The other side of Hell’s,
Hell
Grunts
Silence
Stoicism
All part of the
duties
That I entail
But if you are with
me
There is nothing to
Fear
From the
chocolatezeus collection 9/11/16 ©
Saturday, September 10, 2016
Poetic Reasoning: Meaningless Irrelevance
Meaningless Irrelevance
Connected together
Established intimate
relationships
Merely smoke and
mirrors
An ultimate myth
Dangled carrots
Of
Get to know me
Let time drift along
endless
So maybe there is a
chance of
This meaning
something
I am calling bullshit
It is evident this is
a struggle in
Personal ego
fortification
Wrapped up in
Alleged
Importance
Relationships are
like
A Viking funeral pyre
Floating down the river
burning
Hoping that you will
enter
Valhalla
So you walk through
the valley of death
Unarmed and
outnumbered
Battling each monster
In search of the Holy
Grail
Which is basically
Just a
Grail lamp
The Holy Grail
Remains unattainable
On purpose
The way they have
made it
From the
chocolatezeus collection 9/9/16 ©
Wednesday, September 07, 2016
The Last Few Hours of the Road Warriors...This Time
As my trip here to Houston comes to a close I take the last couple of hours to prepare to return to the insanity of life back in NC. Reality has already shown itself since I have been here. Especially in the last couple of days. But I got a respite from it all so I could relax a bit, chill and think.
Laughing last night during the seafood extravaganza over crazy females, memories and just how I am definitely made the night memorable.
Things to remember this trip by
Laughing last night during the seafood extravaganza over crazy females, memories and just how I am definitely made the night memorable.
Things to remember this trip by
- The Claw (ctfu)
- Jiffy Nigga!
- Bombay pass out
- Scaring the sales chick at the bra shop about eating swan and bear
- The oblong trying on wedding dresses
- Bald headed ninja turtle chick
Yes, the entertainment and laughter was priceless as always when I am with my Ru.
The best part was relaxing. For once we weren't driving all over the world during my visit. I got to sit back and just chill. We laughed and cut up. We ate plenty of good food and of course I did my thing as the bestie and caused chaos and dismay. lmao
So it is time to pack to get ready to go. Grab food and stop and get some kolaches to go. Yep, I am carrying some home with me this time.
I will see you after I come down from the friendly skies this evening.
Oh, and I smoked plenty of cigars. The difference was it wasn't because I was stressed. it was because I could relax and enjoy them and my time. Shout out to the Serious Cigar shop for turning me on to a new short stick. The Rorshach. Just the thing for someone mentally deranged and turns people I come in contact with into Arkham Assylum attendees. lmao
Tuesday, September 06, 2016
Marriage, Chasing and this Modern Day Relation Thing
There have been some interesting discussions with Rae, Pegasus, the girls and other females lately on all aspects of relations and relationship subjects.
From discussions of chasing females to the comment of telling the female parental unit that she was my future wife jokingly (lol she wouldn't have survived that or liked me if she had did that.)
It is hard for most to grasp my approach to dating, marriage and my relationships. So I will attempt an intro course.
Interest in you
I know females are aversion to vulnerability and rejection. Even though men are accustom to these things. (Where is that equality factor here?) For me I like a woman to know what she wants and acts on it. That means that we express that we are interested and make an effort to find out if we will work well together. We both make an executive decision in this situation. Because I hate hounding a female ie chasing them while they wait on whatever crazy schedule and rules they have in their head that only makes sense to them. And the other option which I like is to approach me and tell me your interest.
Society has laid down all this asinine crap about what people should do when it comes to relationships and dating. And frankly it is stupid because they cannot think for themselves. So, they are like lambs to the slaughter each and every day.
Add to that the chasm of differences between females and me and you have the ultimate clusterfuck at all times. So there has to be a lot of communication, understanding and acceptance. I am not who or what you had previously. I think and act in my own way.
Being with you
If I have told, shown and maintained an emotional and relationship attachment to you then I am with you. Whatever level you are at and can handle is where things are at.
I will worry and care about you. Even when you want to attempt to be argumentative about it. If I didn't then there would be no us at all.
My attraction to you won't waver as long as we are together unless you choose to do something to derail that. I do not get involved with anyone I am not attracted to physically and mentally.
We can work anything out and keep a strong relation. Or we can just let things ride and it is whatever it is going to be. Once again this is not a forced issue at all.
My take on relationships
Relationships for me has different levels. And that is because everyone cannot be treated the same way because they are not in the same place or status. I know some will disagree with this because of the ideology of this utopia style that should be present in relations but that is not reality.
The levels go from wife to girlfriend to fwb. It is because of the difference in commitment and longevity. In a society that holds marriage at a high standard this is normal. And for me being the wife means that we are closer than anyone else could possibly be. The wives are the ones who are one with you at the upper echelon of relationships.
I have always treated girlfriends and those I have been involved with as more than a friend well. And I will continue to do so. I just don't treat them like they are one of my wives. Is that wrong? Not for me. It merely is the hierarchy that I have chose to maintain and cultivate in my life.
Relationships have become so disposable that it is hard to put anything substantial or permanent in them most of the time. Most of the time it is a matter of enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts. And honestly that is sad, but the mentality that most have in these modern times. I don't want anything disposable. It has never been what I looked for in a relationship. I have used the Build a Bitch program when I have adhered to the disposable relationship ideology. And that was to get a few things between different females in order to get some form of satisfaction as a whole since I didn't have a relationship at the time.
I can give my heart and make a relationship deeply meaningful and rewarding. But that cannot be just given out to each and everyone. So you do the "get to know you dance." Waiting until you get a sign of which way things may go. That is the way of dating and trying to establishing relationships.
My preference for establishing relationships is communicating the interest and what is wanted and then getting to know each other. I am blunt about what I see, want and foresee so it is not an issue for me. I am the one that has seen and said that "you are the one I could marry." And that was what I meant no matter how they felt, what they thought or inferred from it. So I don't do all the chasing. The calling to see if you are still interested and want to spend time. If you are a woman then you will say and make the same effort that I am.
Females these days seem to be so deep into the fraudulent "think and act like a man" fantasy that it really has fucked things up. It takes strength and confidence to speak on what you want and make it happen. And that is what I like in a woman.
Closing the door
Relationships are what you make out of them. If you don't put any effort in, sit back waiting on your imaginary time table for things to go your way then you will miss out. Achieve and work for what you want and need. If you don't then leave relationships alone and do your situationships so you can be happy.
From discussions of chasing females to the comment of telling the female parental unit that she was my future wife jokingly (lol she wouldn't have survived that or liked me if she had did that.)
It is hard for most to grasp my approach to dating, marriage and my relationships. So I will attempt an intro course.
Interest in you
I know females are aversion to vulnerability and rejection. Even though men are accustom to these things. (Where is that equality factor here?) For me I like a woman to know what she wants and acts on it. That means that we express that we are interested and make an effort to find out if we will work well together. We both make an executive decision in this situation. Because I hate hounding a female ie chasing them while they wait on whatever crazy schedule and rules they have in their head that only makes sense to them. And the other option which I like is to approach me and tell me your interest.
Society has laid down all this asinine crap about what people should do when it comes to relationships and dating. And frankly it is stupid because they cannot think for themselves. So, they are like lambs to the slaughter each and every day.
Add to that the chasm of differences between females and me and you have the ultimate clusterfuck at all times. So there has to be a lot of communication, understanding and acceptance. I am not who or what you had previously. I think and act in my own way.
Being with you
If I have told, shown and maintained an emotional and relationship attachment to you then I am with you. Whatever level you are at and can handle is where things are at.
I will worry and care about you. Even when you want to attempt to be argumentative about it. If I didn't then there would be no us at all.
My attraction to you won't waver as long as we are together unless you choose to do something to derail that. I do not get involved with anyone I am not attracted to physically and mentally.
We can work anything out and keep a strong relation. Or we can just let things ride and it is whatever it is going to be. Once again this is not a forced issue at all.
My take on relationships
Relationships for me has different levels. And that is because everyone cannot be treated the same way because they are not in the same place or status. I know some will disagree with this because of the ideology of this utopia style that should be present in relations but that is not reality.
The levels go from wife to girlfriend to fwb. It is because of the difference in commitment and longevity. In a society that holds marriage at a high standard this is normal. And for me being the wife means that we are closer than anyone else could possibly be. The wives are the ones who are one with you at the upper echelon of relationships.
I have always treated girlfriends and those I have been involved with as more than a friend well. And I will continue to do so. I just don't treat them like they are one of my wives. Is that wrong? Not for me. It merely is the hierarchy that I have chose to maintain and cultivate in my life.
Relationships have become so disposable that it is hard to put anything substantial or permanent in them most of the time. Most of the time it is a matter of enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts. And honestly that is sad, but the mentality that most have in these modern times. I don't want anything disposable. It has never been what I looked for in a relationship. I have used the Build a Bitch program when I have adhered to the disposable relationship ideology. And that was to get a few things between different females in order to get some form of satisfaction as a whole since I didn't have a relationship at the time.
I can give my heart and make a relationship deeply meaningful and rewarding. But that cannot be just given out to each and everyone. So you do the "get to know you dance." Waiting until you get a sign of which way things may go. That is the way of dating and trying to establishing relationships.
My preference for establishing relationships is communicating the interest and what is wanted and then getting to know each other. I am blunt about what I see, want and foresee so it is not an issue for me. I am the one that has seen and said that "you are the one I could marry." And that was what I meant no matter how they felt, what they thought or inferred from it. So I don't do all the chasing. The calling to see if you are still interested and want to spend time. If you are a woman then you will say and make the same effort that I am.
Females these days seem to be so deep into the fraudulent "think and act like a man" fantasy that it really has fucked things up. It takes strength and confidence to speak on what you want and make it happen. And that is what I like in a woman.
Closing the door
Relationships are what you make out of them. If you don't put any effort in, sit back waiting on your imaginary time table for things to go your way then you will miss out. Achieve and work for what you want and need. If you don't then leave relationships alone and do your situationships so you can be happy.
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