I Am the Null Hypothesis

The week has been interesting.

Logan is coming out this upcoming week and I cannot wait! I really hope I am not getting excited to be disappointing but oh well it looks like it might be actually good for once. The true Wolverine finally. Plus it is the Death of Wolverine story arch. So Thursday it is on!

In two weeks I will finally leave the country again. Next stop Amsterdam. This will be interesting trip definitely. Plus I haven't been there since I was a kid so I am seriously trying to get to Maduradam while I am there. It will be good to return to europe again. I haven't been back since I graduated high school. At least I know I will be going back after I go to London. lol

Yesterday was a good day in Raleigh. From eating at Big Ed's (they have some good country, farm to table food there. To include city ham. And of course you can order one or two pancakes since they are huge.)

Hit the history of NC museum downtown to look at everything. They had a WW1 exhibit as well.  Going through and looking at the slavery stuff bothered me a bit but it is supposed to. Hearing them talk about how they did not want to succeed from the union was interesting.  I enjoyed the weapons the most from revolutionary war through world war 2. Hell they even had my favorite the BAR gun in there. Plus a civil war historian was showing real swords and muskets and everything. So there was that and going to look at the dinosaurs, animals, vegetation and sea life indigenous to NC. I didn't know there were certain dinosaurs native to NC.

Left there to hit the farmers market. It wasn't that good because it was so late in the day at that point. But I found my damn ginger beer...cock n bull ginger beer baby!  And I got a case of it. Now it wasn't the diet one unfortunately but hell with it. I didnt have to get it from houston where I got it from the first time.

Had to get my eat on again so I stopped by Gypsy's Silver Dinner and had a real fried fish sandwich. lol  And that was after I went to Havana grill to get a cuban sandwich like I use to when I lived there only to see they are fixing salvadoran and mexican food and still got the cuban name up there. wtf

But I had to round it all off by stopping by my ole biker buddy Charlie from the cigar shop here stomping ground. Empire cigars. I had never been there but it was a nice little place. And damn apex was jumping that late already. I never knew. lol

I didn't make it back to go to Fire and Spice but damn it was worth it! Most definitely worth it!

Along with yesterday;s adventure I had a chance to hear from UK Honey. I hadn't chatted with her in years. Plus talked to the Pimpstress as well about health and stuff. I haven't seen her since when she stopped at blackbeat so we could meet and hang out talking. Both of them were good conversations and all.

Leads me to...

The focus recently has been on basically kow towing to others it seems. It has been in groups as well as individuals that have been talking about it.

This is why the title of the null hypothesis.

Because it is hard for people to understand and accept difference that is not their own and what everyone else says.  From the poly people are their narrow minds, language and words to everyone else and their stuff. It all remained cookie cutter basically. With fear and denial being their own companions.

So I have sat back, listened to and observed their situationships and how they were this and that type of relation. They loosed some bolts my way in an attempt to challenge me and get me to conform to their issues. But I require attributes of a real relationship for it or them to have any true meaning. Anything beneath that is something to do until you discard it.

My thoughts, actions, feelings and all destroying their mentalities. Making them pissed, suck and gnash their teeth because of me. But that is because of they only want things their way and nothing else so they can be comfortable and feel in charge. But that is a conversation for another time.


Did I say Logan is coming out this week!!  lol


Dominant aka the Journey Into Mystery


Through all of your submissives trust, have it my way, combative and more issues and actions something good can come.

There is no glamour in being a Dominant if you are doing it right and daily. It is work regularly and overtime hourly at times. But you want your submissive to succeed, achieve and grow. To live a fuller, happier and more educated life.

So it makes me smile when my submissive's career has grown through the change. Or that her thought processes have developed more so they are not as rigid as the gender tries to maintain. By her the place to trust, be open and be supported allows for exponential growth and dynamic.

The journey is still just beginning so there is no telling where the next landmine or attempted ambush may be in life.



See this is not a rant. It has nice stuff in it!

The Cards Left On the Table

What should be, is not?
What could be, apparently will not be.
What is, is nothing.


Each individual has those things in their life that are important, that they attend to and they give themselves to.  That scale though is something else for them. lol

"If it is important to you then you show that no matter what!"

That is the simple fact of the matter. If there is no importance then it is something you can pick up and drop or simply discard. A simple fact of the nature of things.


With that said I wish you a good night. Some second life, movies and drinking will be continued with all the thinking that is going on.

Enjoy

I Am That Challenge...Week in Review

So it has been rocky for those that grace my circles. They had their internal defenses, walls and everything tested once again. Not by me on purpose or any of that. But because I am just me.

Hell, it even came out in discussions on conference calls as well.

There is a severe quandary out there. For the opposing gender they want a man to be:

• strong
• intelligent
• sensitive
• a manly man

And with those things come the male and Dominant that is not going to tell you what they feel or if things are bothering them.  Strength and honor!!

But the opposing gender want men to be this way until that invisible line in their head is crossed by a man. Then they are not worth it and they won't listen to them and all the other things they come up with.  They want the balance but are unable to articulate it.  They want that take charge, take no prisoners man but they cant' handle it at full power. 

These days the opposing gender has taken their view of think like and be like a man approach. Where they have this bravado of not needing to be emotional and feel anything while making sure to keep all walls, defenses and mrs freeze defense mechanisms on high alert. 

This also brought up more of men being men instead of the neutered version that the opposite gender's feminists want to employ.  Being a misogynistic, chauvinistic Caveman is who and what I am.  That man that will love you deeply from the beginning to the end even when you question my intentions or motives.  And the man that will do the complete opposite when it is warranted. 

The opposite gender was and is appalled at me being this way. They have all their issue with it and the rattling of the equality noodle sabres and all. 

But, I married, dated, date and have a submissive that are feminists. That is the type of balance there is and how it works for me.  They are the only ones strong enough to be an applicant to have a chance for anything with me.  As the opposite gender was in their shock and awe a Master had to explain to them what I said. That those that are with me are with me with the understanding of their role, place and meaning to me. Or they decide to leave or fake it as best as they can. 

Because of these things and many more traits I test the resolve of those i am involved with.  I am not what their exes, husband and friends are or think. I say and do things that are not mainstream.  I show them a deep love that I do not give to others or even acknowledge others.  Here is where the spotlight shines down upon them and they decide if they want to, can handle or be in the role that I have for them. Taxing their heart, mind and soul with how I am. It truly is not for the weak at all. They will drive themselves questioning how I am and being with me instead of enjoying their role and what they mean. 

So me as....

A Dominant

As Havoc

As Chocolatezeus

Or Big Evil

I make and will continue making you think, feel and be outside of the box that you feel so comfortable in. 

Poetic Affect: Cold Hearts With Love Divine

Cold Hearts With Love Divine

I love you

In love with you

Heart beats

Make me want you to be mine

Each caress of your face

Feel of the curves of your skin

Looking deep into your eyes

Reminding me

You are situationally

Mine

Looking at the results

Of what me in your life has done

To your soul and mind

Told you to be mine

My girl, my sub, my wife

But

I have broken

Your heart

Your soul

Your mind

The only thing I cannot do

Is break through

Your stubborn denial

From the chocolatezeus collection  2/20/17  ©

The Reality of Me and Valentines

I hope you had a good valentines day. You got what you wanted and enjoyed who you love.

My time has been spent laughing for the most part because of the interesting views people have of me and valentines day.

It is thought that I do not like it and that I wouldn't or don't celebrate it. I chuckled a lot about this.

Truth is that I enjoy it when I have someone to be with. I do the whole romantic thing. Cooking dinners, picnics and all. The things I do on a regular all year round and not just on valentines. I am an evil, chauvinistic, misogynistic asshole but when I love you then it is on.

Love deeply, openly and completely. Regardless of the claimed fears it is Grrreaatt!

Storm Shadow...a Recap

Times have been interesting indeed. Things have definitely happened.

Happy about hitting Amsterdam and enjoying myself. And really happy about the flight price. lol  The line up for Jamaica and Dominican Republic is coming along nicely. I won't be hanging with Ru for her birthday since their are those I do not care for going wherever they are going. So I will catch her when she is stationary again and we can do our thing.  And depending on this offer I may get to do England and Scotland this year as well. hoorah!  Looks like will be getting back to the old school ways of being Ghost.

So the hot topic has been dating, relations and the modern way lately. With Tigger, lil one, red and in general discussions.  There was some good, bad and ugly type of expressions. lol  But it definitely is a wonderful thing when there are those that can understand and accept that my path is not your path but our goals can be the same if you choose to be a team. Some good info, good exchange and good convos were had to diminish the other ones.

Compartmentalization and disassociation have been moved up a level since the beginning of the year at least. It is really working wonders and keeping everyone organized properly.

Watched a lot of movies. The new underworld and resident evil ones. They were alright but nothing to watch repeatedly. Watched john wick 2 yesterday and that was good. At least he kept reloading his guns except for almost the end of the movie i guess they got tired of being accurate.

As I told red since I thought about her when I saw the preview for the tupac biopic "all eyez on me" which will be out later on this year. That might be interesting.

I am more than ready for Logan next month! I hopefully will finally get to see a Wolverine movie that is done properly I hope.

The parental units and their daughter are excommunicated like all other ex factors so who knows what the deal is with them.

apple products still suck! smh!

I think I need to go hang out with Pimpstress since I haven't seen her since that visit at blackbeat years ago.  She good puerto rican people.  Plus she rides a motorcycle! lol

ABM and Caveman forever!
I can't and Won't be stopped.


Enjoy your adventure whatever it may be....

Poetry: Everyone and Everything In It's Place

Everyone and Everything In it’s Place

Words and actions

Suspended in ether

A spectral analysis

All encompassing

I digest

File away

Formulate

Placing those with

Ability and lack of abilities

Boxed and walled

Comfort zone fortresses

Neatly In their

Desired holes

Each observation

Creates inventory

To keep or discard

Appropriately

People and things

Either they have their place

Make a place

Or be permanently erased

From the chocolatezeus collection   2/12/17  ©

Meat Loaf - I Would Do Anything For Love (But I Won't Do That) Lyrics

Tradition vs modern day.

Yeah, lol

Relational Scales

I have been chuckling about discussion about me and relations today. Well I do that most of the time but today was another one.

Offense has been taken because I differentiate between females and women. As well as the fact that I say that I see that the modern day female just wants a faux relation that is convenient and they can pull out of their purse and put back in when they want to.  Oh, and the fact that I am a misogynist and chauvinist and yadda, yadda, yadda.

So the convo was about the independent, feminist, I don't need things, professional female.  This applies to me because it is who I tend to be interested in, pick, attempt a relation with and who I married.  The one I date and the sub fall into this category of course.

The comment was made that they wanted 100 percent of a man but they didn't need him all the time or that much time at all. As I laughed I said, "so you want to rent exactly what you want for a period of time and put it back on the shelf?"  The appalled response said it all. Of course not she said. I want to enjoy it all. But wait, you want 100 percent of someone but you want it on your schedule, part time and when you want. Ummm, that is not a relation there. That is a situation. To which there was denial as I always here in replies.

As a man you have to choose to accept what the deal is or drop it and move on.  The females I deal with are the same, so I choose to deal with the situations.  I don't expect a loving relationship. I expect a sliding scale of everything with some love sprinkled in there once a Milena or so.  They are the independent and don't need anything types. So, things get penciled in when it is convenient and I just look up to see when things come off and go back on the shelf.

The basis behind these walls and defenses they put up though is because of training, experience and socialization's. It has been instilled in them that it is weak to have needs and especially when it comes to a man. And every hour of the day somewhere a female is spouting about how none of them need a man, that men basically need to be spayed and neutered so the feminists and females can feel empowered.  Here is where I challenged female critical thinking skills. If I give you your space, you get the loving and stuff you can handle, then where are the issues? Why do you have to fight the feeling and desire that you have to have a real relationship with a man. One that isn't only about you waving your female flag but a relationship that has two partners. A partner is there with you through it all and with it all. With fears, disagreements, pain, pleasure and happiness.  But according to everything that females say there is no we. There is only them and someone they want to hang out with once in a while and throw them away again afterward.

So after she recollected how I was in the beginning until now with my direct approach and my very distinct black and white type of life. Along with realizing that the females I am with had to make a decision about being with me because I am not them or the other people they are with or been with.  In the end even with situationships you get to be on the inside with me, unlike the rest of the people. That is a big difference and important. You can be special and have meaning or be just another female on the planet.

The scales that I attempt to keep in balance when it comes to relations were heavily modified.  I know what a real relationship with a feminist, independent, strong career woman is like. It is the woman that has the ability to be a we instead of just a she.  But i don't expect that from no one. I don't expect them to get out of their own way or realize the possibility.   Even when I have said what I saw and what I wanted to them. I knew that was just me and they were probably do the opposite or some variation there of.  But the balance came with removing any expectation, being direct and realizing that "it is what it is," aka they can only do what they can handle when and if they can handle it regardless.   So I will enjoy the few moments here and there for what they are. And remain centered in reality.  Love, relations, dating are dead prehistoric beasts that have been replaced by mobile disposable situations.  So you get what you seek, want and give in the way that you present it.

The scale sits tilted heavily to the exasperated side. As I laugh at the memories and times that have been had up to this point this morning.  No longer looking toward the future like an explorer, merely fortifying my journey.  As they say, "you must adapt, overcome, destroy and remake in your way."

I enjoy the conversation. Because I can see the results of my existence through the attacks on their brains, heart and soul. The internal questions on thoughts and feelings. The challenge to the female status quo.

I love the weird and uniqueness. They are parts of the woman I need and want.  But it is that type that is the hardest to actually be able to cross the line and have a fully function relationship of WE. To evolve from the female fortress of solitude thinking to where chances are taken to reach higher levels more deeply.

Team Titan was the blueprint and I am the half that is left from it!



Life is not a guarantee.  Live, love and be. Just don't hinder yourself from living.

The Countdown Has Begun

A month away from enjoying myself in Amsterdam and I am ready for it. Going to have a good time since this will be my first time back as an adult since I was very young.

On deck for the trip:
Madurodam
This jazz bar paul mentioned.
Museums and art exhibits
The red light district for entertainment
And hopefully find something kinky to get into.


This year is about adventure. Amsterdam, Jamaica and DR on deck along with a kinkybnb visit. So I am setting the bar high again this year.


All I can say is...

Get your adventure on!

Yeah...I Love My Bitch!!

You know I love my bitch, yep yep I love my bitch.

COMMUNICATION...The Fundamental Foundation

From interactions with the humans, their commentaries and actions they continue to show that communication is key and also the biggest chasm between females and me and just humans all together.

I am the Capt Caveman of communication! So let me club you up aside your head with this entry. lol

A post by a alleged alpha female really showed me the disparity when it comes to communication.  She stated that they are always seen as disrespectful when they say they heard the person and they are going to do what they want to anyway. Then you aka prime example of female and not a woman should never be in a relationship or dynamic. Stick to polluting yourself and those of the same caliber.  That is not an alpha female characteristic. That is just that whiny, brat, i need to have my way mentality. An alpha is not about being able to do and know everything and control everyone. Unlike things i have read.  An alpha is about leading and a leader knows the strengths and weaknesses and bolsters them accordingly.

Personally I have learned and seen first hand just how counter active communication is between men and females. I make a comment that is direct and to the point and regardless it is intrepreted by the female because she won't accept what I said as that is what I said. I really got fed up with that last year with the ny thing and at that point realized how it was a gender trait apparently laced in their dna. Even when I repeatedly state what I have said they still want to go with something else regardless. I found that this was something that I had to break in order to achieve proper communication. So I put forth the plan of action.

When it comes to communication it is essential. Especially for me since I have girls that are long distance. Just in the D/s aspect you have to have communication to have an effective, goal achieving and fulfilling dynamic. Hell, even dating you have to communicate to be involved with each other unless you don't want to be involved and just want the title or illusion of dating.

Case examples:

You have had a bad day or being injured, accosted or some negative impact. You lash out or clam up as I attempt to communicate with you. Leading to me either being frustrated and agitated or walking into an exploding mine.

Tell you how I feel, what i want, need and require. And you intrepret it all and end up with the opposite of everything that I said. This only creates a rift and dismissal basically.


To wrap it up:

Talk, speak and express in a manner that is befitting of the relation or dynamic. Let go of your fear and issues if you actually want to be involved with someone else in a manner that is more than something fleeting.

Communication is intimacy and deepness. So it is a big factor in why people run from it. It is opening up and being a part of someone else instead of being walled up with all the defenses.

I communicate. To get my point across. To let you know where I stand. To let you know what I am about and want.  It is direct. red can tell you that from when I told her that I wanted her and that could see a relationship and marriage with her. All based on if that was anything that she was wanting or interested in at that time.

For me it is always best to put the stuff on the table and find out if you are adult enough to handle it and make a decision or if I need to treat you as a child.



Some interesting convos have been had, heard and discussed. So take what you need and until next time.

Wooo Haaa, I got you all in check!

すべておよび何も Everything and Nothing at the Same Time

I will walk through hell for you or I will drop you in the deepest pit of hell and throw a building on top of you. 

Love you fully and deeply with all my heart or not remember your name or care if you are even alive anymore. 

I know it is very difficult for females to understand this or grasp these concepts and how I am.  The disbelief and shock that I have chosen my own path and way still disturbs their sensibilities. This has come up with females speaking directly to me as well as those that have spoken to red about how could she be involved with me since I am misogynistic and blah, blah, blah. The ex gf's, gfs and sub and all have had the same thoughts. That thought being...

They can change me. Or I will do just like everyone else. That seems to be the need for the majority of females. This need to do like the masses is not, nor will ever be who or what I am.  I choose not to lower my standards, get topped from the bottom or have a female attempt to lead me. 

So Let It Be Broke...

I love deeply and my apathy for you when you have done wrong is equally as powerful. 

Yes, I am not your friend unless I told you that is all you can be. Nor am I going to be your friend during or after a relationship.

I am direct. I will tell you what I want and what I see as possibility with you. 

If I choose you then it is about you and I. Others outside of that circle will have no relevance to me. 

There are levels to being in my life for those selected few that are in it. 

I differentiate between females and women because there is a huge difference. Most are females and cannot attain womanhood.

So when you have your thoughts and feelings about how I am. I am happy for you. It changes nothing for me and shows me what category you are in. My style weeds out those that are not strong, intelligent or capable enough to think on their own and be able to establish something real and unique. And it always makes me happy to see them run away in their weakness. 

I am able to give everything or nothing. It all depends on your choices and whether you can get out of your own mental prison. 

So....

Yes, Ru my road dawg gets the most. 

red and little one are in their circle.

And the rest are sitting comfortably on the outside of all the circles.

The Alpha and the Omega.

APOCALYPSE!!!